'Tis the Season to Think Ahead!
You have so much to do during the holiday season. It can be overwhelming, especially for parents and their children with autism. The Behavior Exchange understands the challenges you face, so we’ve pulled together a few tips for making this time of year happier for your child, your family, and the people you spend time with celebrating and creating memories.
Tip #1: Make a list and plan it twice.
Preparation this time of year makes all the difference, because it can make the holidays easier and bring you peace of mind.
- Tell your child about upcoming events and social gatherings that are not part of their typical schedule or routine. It can help to practice appropriate behaviors with them beforehand and even do a walk-through at the event site, if possible.
- Set rules for your child before heading out to a holiday gathering. A rule could be saying hi to grandparents and other relatives that are there or not to play with ornaments or other decorations within reach. Rules should address things you know could be a challenge for your child.
- Have an alternate plan and stick to it if things don’t go as you had hoped.
Tip #2: Deck the halls with care.
The holidays are a feast for the senses. But for a child with autism, the twinkling lights, loud music, strange food, and unfamiliar faces can be sensory overload.
- If you child has sensory issues, be sure to engage them as much as possible in the decoration of your house, proceeding gradually and consistently.
- Use photos of past holidays to reassure them of any changes you make to their environment.
- The same technique of looking at old photos can be used for introducing your child to members of your extended family before a holiday visit.
- Again, it’s all about setting their expectations to minimize unwanted behaviors.
Tip #3: Let there be peace in the family.
Family members and friends you only see during the holidays can easily misunderstand your child’s behavior. They can also question your decisions and actions, because they don’t know anything about autism. They mean well, they just don’t understand. To avoid these types of situations, tell them about your child in advance and give them a chance to help you!
- Share your plan for the visit with your extended family or holiday hosts.
- Give them a short list of the kinds of foods your child will and won’t eat, and bring their favorite snacks as a back up.
- Tell them whether or not your child likes to be hugged.
- Let them know which activities your child will or won’t participate in and how they prefer to communicate.
- You can even tell them about the gifts your child likes, then practice opening gifts with your child to show them how to wait their turn and react to gifts they don’t like.
We hope these tips relieve some of your stress and help make this holiday season a little brighter for your child and family.
If you’d like to learn more from an autism expert, contact The Behavior Exchange. We’re proud to be a Behavioral Health Center of Excellence® with over 20 years of experience in ABA therapy, the gold standard of autism care.